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It has come to my attention that a few people are unsure of what a “friend” really means. This number of people seems to be increasing day by day. They let these so-called ‘friends‘ do what they want while still caring for them. That is not right. These so call friends are toxic and are just a big no no.
As a true friend, I am here to tell you some key traits that a ‘friend’ does not have. You may think since I am a blogger trying to get you to read, follow and subscribe to my blog that I am not a friend but I am. As a true friend, I will not scam you or take your money and I will also come to your blog to follow, read, subscribe if you leave the link in the comments.
So what makes a friend toxic? Let us find out. These are just 8 traits of toxic people, there are still plenty more.
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How to tell if your friendship is toxic
1. If your friend only talks to you when you have money
This means that your friend may be using you for money. This does not mean they are taking your actual real money. This means they have status problems and only care for people of certain money status
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2. If your friend always wants something from you
This means that the person is using you for something. Maybe it is money or it could be something as simple as a ride
3. If your friend says ‘we are done’ over stupid things
For example- ‘we are done’ when you say that you don’t have something that the friend wants
4. Your friend makes you feel guilty when you can’t give them something they want
When you can’t offer something they want, they will say something like “Oh so you are not my friend because you won’t … for me” This is sometimes followed by #3. This person is manipulative
5. This person will accuse you of doing things you are not
For example- the person saying that you are dating someone who you are not. No matter how many times you tell them you are not, they will bring this up over and over again.
6. This person will not let you have a relationship even though they may be in one
This is a sign of control. They say they will fight anyone who wants to date you. When you do start dating someone, this person will end the friendship. They want to be the only one in your life and will not accept anyone taking you from them
7. This person spies or has people spying on you
How does this person know you had company?? They have friends who are spying on you. These ‘friends’ of theirs may lie about what they see you doing which in turn makes the person accuse you of doing something you are not
8. You find that things are missing when you leave your friend alone in your house
‘Where did the $5 go??’ You remember … was over and you left them alone in your kitchen since you had to use the bathroom. The $5 was on the counter. You want to believe that the … did not take the money. You want to believe you did not put the $5 on the counter. Though you remember that things seem missing whenever your friend is alone. Hmm
What to do when you see that your friend is toxic
1. Change yourself-
2. Confront this person-
3.. Give the person time to change-
4. Exit the friendship-
Conclusion
Real friends are hard to come by. If you are patient and know these signs, then you will find those real friends. It may just wind up being one 1 person or it could be a ton. It may take you until you are 40 but they will come.
Just make sure that when you do find that right friend you don’t become the toxic friend. No one wants or deserves a toxic person in their life.
Good luck
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Life is too short to put up with toxic people. I think it's important to keep your life free of toxic elements. You only have so much time on this planet.
It can be so hard to break free of toxic people but it is so important to do – life is too short.
I've definitely had my fair share of toxic relationships. Luckily, I've separated myself from most of them.
I think everyone has had a bit of a toxic friendship at some point in their lives. As you say the trick is to identify it and do something about it.
Sometimes it takes an outsider to make us see sense. It's not always easy to admit that you're in a toxic anything, all the more to take action.
Toxic people are hard to deal with, never easy. I agree we should get rid of them to be happy and healthy
we all have toxic people, some of them come in forms of family and that is hard to distance yourself from. so be true to yourself and cut ties when necessary
So important to recognize the signs especially as you get older. We have all be through this…it hurts but weeding out your life is necessary for a healthy one.
These are all great tips to keep in mind when developing friendships; great advice, indeed!
I agree 100% on your tips. I had a friend who did none of these things; however. She was just a horribly, nasty person and I am thankfully not friends with her any longer!
Great article. Would pass it on to my teenager kid for reiterating the facts.
This is a really helpful post and may help some to identify toxic friendships that they hadn't realised were toxic. It is so important to know the signs. I now know some of my past friendships were toxic and am glad to be rid of them.
thats what they say, if it's toxic, let it go! i just did. :p
This sounds a lot like an ex I had… and a few friends… no use for them!
These are definitely some red flags. This is an important list of things to look at.
Friendships can definitely turn on you as you get older. Your goals may change from one another or you may just have different views on things. This is such an important reminder!
I have so many friends ad I am so glad they were all good and don't have any signs of being a toxic one.
I am so happy that I ahve friend who are very supportive. Thank you for sharing this. This is very important to know especialy when you ahve new circles of friends.
Thank goodness that my toxic friends eliminated themselves!
"Real friends won't take advantage of you" such wise words and in the past my mummy has been dropped when she hasn't any money, people have stole from her and used her. Now she finds it hard to trusy anyone x
Toxic people are the absolute worst and can polute your energy. Great post on how to recognize and exit!
Toxic people are the absolute worst and can polute your energy. Great post on how to recognize and exit!
These are all spot on! I always have to remind myself its best to move on from them and start fresh!
Toxic relationships are so dangerous if you let them into your life. Thank you.
1000000% true Stacie xx
Yes it can be Mandy. I have seen many people keep with toxic people because they want to see the 'good' in people. It is important for mental state to reid of these people xx
I am so sorry to hear that but I am also glad that you were able to seperate yourself from those people xx
It can be easy to identify it but hard to do something but it is best for everyone's mental health xx
This is true, Nora. Sometimes the person with the toxic friend does not even want to hear it from an outsider. Which can be irritating even more xx
Yes you get it Lyosha!!!!! xx
Hopefully that toxic person will learn and not do it to other's xx
Yes Catherine. I think as we age, we see and know the signs more. Makes it harder if they have been our friends for a long time xx
Thank you very much Sara. I am glad you enjoyed it xx
Oh that is awful Beth, but I am glad you got done with her. You for sure do not need her. I do hope she learns from her mistakes to be a better person xx
I am glad you like it and will show your teenager. I do hope she does not have to deal with toxic people Sonal xx
I am glad you liked it, Leah. I am also glad you got rid of those people xx
You got that right!!!!
Oh haha glad he is your ex, Kita xx
I am glad you liked it xx
Beyond true Becca. That is something to also consider. A toxic friend can be someone who just does not support you xx
You are a lucky one, Alexandra. Keep those friends close xx
I am glad you liked it. Keep those supportive friends close xx
That is amazing Felecia. That is a very rare thing to happen xx
I love this quote. Thank you for sharing it xx
They so are!! Thank you for liking it xx
Thanks a ton Mimi xx
Thank you. Yes Emily, move on and start fresh since you deserve to find great friends
Way true Miss J xx
It can be hard to walk away from a toxic friendship, but recognising the signs is an important first step
They will have unlimited oversight, you will have zero control, and the relationship will be totally crazy. Signs of toxic relationships